MANIFESTING WITH ALIGNED ACTION

[00:00:01] Speaker A: Welcome to Woowooville, the next stop on your spiritual journey, hosted by two fellow travelers who found a soul connection on the path to higher consciousness. Our goal is to help you navigate the choppy waters you're likely to encounter on the spiritual path by sharing our experiences with you each week. Join us as we spill the tea on what it's like to wake up to your authentic self. Hello, everyone. My name is Ameril, and I'm here with. [00:00:30] Speaker B: I am Lola Singer, and our topic today is Manifesting with Aligned Action. Before we talk about Aligned Action, we live in the Pacific Northwest, and apparently what Amaral and I have manifested is a pelting down rainfall. So we're using a microphone right now. I doubt you can hear the rain, but it's super loud. Just in case you can. That's what's going on. It's supposed to last a long time. That's what happens when you live in this region. Right. [00:01:03] Speaker A: I love the rain. I've gotten so used to it. And not only that, but we want those beautiful flowers for this spring. We gotta have some rain. So that's the way I look at it. [00:01:11] Speaker B: Yeah. So anyway, if you hear that, plus, we're gonna be reading off of some papers. I printed some things up for us as an episode guide. So if you hear any crinkling noises, that's just us rustling papers. And the cat is. We're trying to get her to take a nap, but she's not doing, so. So you might hear me a little later in the podcast, too. All right, now that the warnings have been given to everybody, we can get [00:01:34] Speaker A: started with our episode. [00:01:38] Speaker B: All right, well, this was something I wanted to talk about because I feel like, you know, there's so many Manifestation coaches out there, and they're kind of saying the same thing, yet they're kind of contradicting each other. And you try something, someone tells you, and still you're not quite getting the results that they seem to be offering you. And so one of the pieces I realized in the puzzle that I'd been missing was that I had been focusing a lot on the mental aspect of it. And I understand that magic requires you to have an emotional aspect as well to create. But what the missing puzzle piece for me was the action, the Aligned Action. And I think that is a trap that most of us fall into when we're learning about manifestation. Yeah. How about you? [00:02:35] Speaker A: I think so, too. I think that I decided to switch it. So when we started the Fire Horse, I included the action part a lot. Like Movement in the body and just doing things that were more, like, aligned with action taking. However, one of the things that I just realized is that the mind, I kind of gave it a break and maybe gave it too much of a break because it just. I didn't want to feel like I was trying to push something, so. [00:03:04] Speaker B: Okay, so I guess what we're trying to say is, and we're not experts, and goodness knows, I would love to improve my manifestation, and that's what I'll be, you know, doing. But there seems to be a secret ingredients to the cake mix. Right. The recipe one would be the mental, the emotional, and then an aligned action to show the universe you're serious about this. And so we wanted to kind of talk about the aligned action in particular, but not discount that. Like you said, you have to have that mental awareness. What am I focusing on? What have I selected? And then the heart, too. [00:03:45] Speaker A: So a lot of times, what people think is, if I visualize, affirm, and stay positive, things will change. [00:03:53] Speaker B: That's the hook that all those manifestation coaches give us, isn't it? Yes. So I think we all fell. I did. I fell into that trap. Oh, yeah. I'll just. You know, the more I say this over and over and over again, eventually, you know, I'll see the changes happening. There were a lot of cases where that didn't happen for me. [00:04:11] Speaker A: Yep. And, you know, it's crazy because even that statement alone. You know what? It takes me back to remember that. That big. When it hit really big about the. The secret, how it was all about, like, affirming and staying positive and visualizing and supposedly was going to work, and everybody was all sucked into it. But the thing is, what actually happens is nothing will change because nothing moves. We. It's. There's an action required to everything to move it forward. Not to mention, we're trying to bring things into the physical. You would think, what do we have in the physical that makes things move our bodies. Exactly. So a lot of times, it's in. It's just. You know, the thing is, like Lola said, we're not pros by any means. I actually been doing really good with manifesting. But this is the funny thing about it. I manifest so easy. However I manifest the things that I don't put any effort to it. And I get caught up on the whole thing of I can only manifest small things, but I don't manifest big things. And that's a complete lie, because the universe doesn't even know what small or big means because you Add that thing to it. It's never the universe. It's safe. [00:05:32] Speaker B: It's like your mind creating your own restrictions. [00:05:34] Speaker A: Exactly. But it's so funny, you guys. Like, I have had things from. I was craving this dessert because I saw that my. My mom. My mom made it. And what's funny is I thought, my mom for sure is going to bring me this dessert because she had booked an appointment with me to color her hair the next day. And I said, it's like, just a thank you for doing my hair. She's going to bring me some of my favorite dessert. And she was my second client. And what's funny and how the universe works. My first client brought me my favorite dessert that she had made, and. And my mom forgot about it. [00:06:11] Speaker B: Yet you manifested. [00:06:12] Speaker A: Yeah, it was manifested. So sometimes just things like that, like, it just when they happen, you're just, like, so thankful and so grateful. And I was extremely grateful. But it's just, that's my thing that I have to work on, that there's no such thing or big or small manifestations that that category I'm giving it myself is not the universe that's giving that category to it. So. [00:06:34] Speaker B: Well, I think that's good, good advice in general. And I think that, you know, we're programmed to think small or to think. It has to be a certain way. And that's another thing those manifestation coaches always talking about, you know, don't, you know, like, for example, money. It doesn't always come from your work. Sometimes it could be someone who gives you a present. Yep. You know, so let's get back to that formula then. Okay, so you want to think and imagine, and then you want to add emotion to that thought, and then you want to take some step. And it does not have to be a huge step based on my understanding. Okay, so I guess the one thing that we wanted to say is it can be a small action. So manifestation isn't just mantras. It's taking that one small action, which I know sounds obvious, but once you hear it. But it's not obvious until you hear it. [00:07:33] Speaker A: Exactly. [00:07:34] Speaker B: So here we're telling you guys. [00:07:36] Speaker A: Well, that and then taking the actual action to make that small step. When I first started on my awakening journey, I was under that programming. That programming was really strong on me, where you have to work hard to get things from life. It just couldn't leave me because it's like, you have to work, and you have to, like, your work is a proof that worthy of receiving. That was like the number one program. There was. [00:08:04] Speaker B: I think that's 90% of people in North America, because, you know, we were raised on. And you might not have heard this term, Horatio Alger stories. [00:08:11] Speaker A: I haven't heard that. [00:08:12] Speaker B: That's. I think it's from the 1920s, maybe earlier teens. And they were popular short stories about this plucky guy who goes out and conquers the world because he works hard. You know, pull yourself up by the bootstraps. [00:08:26] Speaker A: Oh, I have heard that term. [00:08:28] Speaker B: I think that might be from Horatio Alger. So all these Horatio Alger stories. And so our great grandparents grew up on that. Our grandparents grew up on it. Our parents grew up on it. We grew up on it. Right. So that's definitely something I'm sure people in the audience can relate to. [00:08:45] Speaker A: And the reason why we're saying this is because even though there is action that you need to take, but that action is not equal to kill yourself to be able to receive it. It just seems like a movement of going the right direction into the direction that what you're trying to manifest. [00:09:04] Speaker B: Yes. And we're gonna have some examples at the end of things you can do. But I agree. Just because if you're thinking big doesn't mean that that action has to be big. Big. It just has to be, as they say, aligned to the goal. So sometimes I tell people, when I've done readings for them, it's like, maybe it's just as simple as you getting on the Internet and you doing some exploration. [00:09:25] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:09:25] Speaker B: You know, so one of some of the things that can affect us, you know, is that it, especially on the spiritual path, is it can feel like spiritual bypassing when you're doing your inner work and things aren't happening. [00:09:39] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:09:40] Speaker B: You know, it's like, what did I do wrong on the spiritual path? Right. Or it could. It could be that you're waiting for something to be really, really clear before you make any move, move and take any action. And that's kind of me. I think that's what's held me back. I feel like, you know, I don't know what the clear step is, so I don't do anything. You know, you could feel like it's disguised as alignment instead of action. Because alignment isn't action. [00:10:11] Speaker A: Nope. [00:10:12] Speaker B: But it's necessary for the manifesting, so you might think it's an action. That's tricky, isn't it? [00:10:18] Speaker A: That is kind of tricky. [00:10:19] Speaker B: Okay. I've gotten myself into alignment. That feels like a verb. I've gotten myself into alignment. But you still need to make an active step, Right. [00:10:30] Speaker A: Yep. [00:10:31] Speaker B: And then you could be getting dopamine affecting you when you're thinking about changing versus actually doing it, which I think when you have the dopamine, you think you've done it. [00:10:39] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:10:40] Speaker B: Right. [00:10:41] Speaker A: Well, because it sound like that inter. Like inner gratification that you feel. So you're like, oh, because I feel so good, I must have already done that step that I needed to. [00:10:52] Speaker B: But that would be more like you did the heart step. [00:10:54] Speaker A: Yes. [00:10:55] Speaker B: You know, where you put the emotion with it. [00:10:56] Speaker A: Exactly. [00:10:57] Speaker B: And yes, it feels like you accomplished something. I get it. I can see why that would be a little bit of a trap. Okay, so why don't you tell us the key insight that we're looking at on our list? Because I love it. [00:11:11] Speaker A: Yes. So the key insight on this is thinking about change feels productive. Yes. But it isn't movement. [00:11:19] Speaker B: Yeah. So you get that good, good feeling. But it's a feeling. [00:11:23] Speaker A: And see, that is like, also, like, just so that you're not your worst enemy. Because I once upon a time would criticize myself more than anyone could ever imagine. But just that, that part about feeling, that part, like Lola said, it is a step. It's like you're. You're taking care of the emotion behind it. So don't get, like, give yourself credit for that. But there's still an align action that it needs to be taken. In other words. [00:11:50] Speaker B: Yeah. And then we're. We're going to kind of circle back to what you talked about, how it doesn't have to be a big, bold step. A small action counts, like I said, you know, even just like, getting on the Internet and learning, like, let's say you're looking for a house. You. You know, they always say, like, well, go look at the houses in your area. You know, it could be picking up a book about something you're interested. It could be I'm committing myself by lighting a candle. A lot of people do things like that, Right. [00:12:23] Speaker A: So one of the things I did, so one of the things I'm work that, for example, I'm working on is I want to manifest a house, but I don't want to manifest the house. I've had houses. I live in a house. Now I want to manifest a home. So what is the differences between it? To me, a home is somewhere where I truly am aligned to be, where I'm happy, where it fills me up, where it feels like my peace, my sanctuary. And what I started doing is I downloaded one of those apps, like, when you're looking For a home. And what I started doing is saving homes as if I was shopping, because in that area is just moving into the action of. This is a potential home for you. This is a potential home for you. Like, what do you like about this one? And then I would put in the list the ones that I love. I would put them away for inspiration so I can look at them and I can visualize myself. Like, how would I feel living in this home? And that's completely free. And it doesn't require. It's a small action. Yet. Is an action completely going in the direction of where you want to go? [00:13:28] Speaker B: Yeah. And then one of the ones I keep getting that I should be doing as a small action is check my bank account regularly because it puts the fear of Jesus in me every time. And it has been all my life. I've always had a jobs where, you know, I was getting by. And so I just associate looking at the bank account with. With my nervous system not being comfortable. And I was told, like, just doing that on a regular basis helps your nervous system to get used to it. Yeah. So it no longer has that charge. So it becomes something that feels very natural. So having money feels more natural as a result. So that's what we're talking about. Aligned actions. They don't have to be, you know, like. Like if you're manifesting money, it's like, okay, okay, I've got to go contact people and do cold calls, you know. No, no, it can be just a simple. As checking your bank account. [00:14:22] Speaker A: Yep. [00:14:23] Speaker B: Okay. So we wanted to talk about some of the small actions, you know, and so once again, keep in mind that small things shape us more than breakthroughs do. And I think usually on the spiritual path, we're expecting a breakthrough, aren't we? And when we're manifesting, especially, we expect a breakthrough, don't we? [00:14:43] Speaker A: Here's the thing that was really interesting that was brought to me. There was such a good. It brought so much clarity into it. When you're. When you're manifesting and you're thinking of breakthrough, the reason why you're thinking of a breakthrough, it's almost like it has to be so big in order for you to announce it. But in reality, are you manifesting for. Aren't you manifesting for yourself? You're not manifesting to get the approval from anyone else. So breakthrough, it's more about being so open. Well, a true manifestation, you're gonna feel it, it's gonna fulfill you. Because no matter what you manage to manifest and fulfills you, it's going to make you feel the happiness. Anyone else, yeah, they might get excited for you and stuff, but nobody else is going to feel it like you. So it shouldn't feel like a breakthrough. It should feel to you like you have like made an accomplishment. [00:15:38] Speaker B: It's supposed to feel natural. [00:15:39] Speaker A: Exactly. [00:15:40] Speaker B: Like it just, it's inevitable that this will happen. [00:15:43] Speaker A: And isn't it interesting how that natural feeling really aligns with your nervous system too? [00:15:47] Speaker B: Absolutely. It's. It's essential to manifestation. [00:15:50] Speaker A: Like, why would you want something so big that your system goes on Crazy, crazy wire over. [00:15:56] Speaker B: Well, and that's a great example I see people talk about because, you know, they say, oh, we're going to manifest a million dollars. Like, does your body really want a million dollars? Do you realize how much responsibility a million dollars is to use that in a way that not only benefits other people too, but taxes and always wondering, you know, friends, do they are my friend or do they want my money? Yeah, I mean, there's, there's things that go along with it that your body might be telling you at a subconscious level. No, we really don't want that. And you know, we don't want the, that responsibility. You know, how about a smaller number? [00:16:34] Speaker A: You know, or even how about like, I think on that aspect is, like you said, it's refining how you're looking at it. Because how I see money now, I see it as resources. So the resources open up to give me choices. And those choices are based on freedom. And so that's how I look at it. I don't look at an amount. I look at like, I want to be happy, I want to have choices. And when I want to have the, the resources to make those choices. And so for that you start visualizing, like say you want to, you want to go on trips, let's say you want to really enjoy life, then there's not really an amount because whatever you're opening up to receive is a bigger thing. I think that we, we, when we are too much about an amount, we're trying to control an outcome and also a lot of the times when we aren't prepared for it because when you make it to be an amount, it becomes something so much more like more distorted energy, for lack of a better word, I guess. [00:17:38] Speaker B: Well, yeah, and I just keep hearing the word responsibility. It's probably more responsibility than you realize. And the body's going, no. [00:17:47] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:17:48] Speaker B: So small actions can be a micro promise to yourself, like a little mini promise. And that could be like changing your morning Routine, you know, okay, from this morning onward, I'm going to drink lemon water instead of coffee. And that's my step forward. Like, we talked about something that feels like a positive step to you. And then like, like you talked about nervous system versus overwhelm. It's. I think that a lot of people like you talked about. It's kind of a catch 22, isn't it? Because you shouldn't put limits on it. But yet it has to be something that your body will accept at a subconscious level. [00:18:36] Speaker A: I always think of it. I think you're manifesting. We all have obviously manifesting power, but your ability to receive it also always aligns with how much healing you done. Because if you have healed how you receive things, especially like finances, for example, the way you look at them, then you're more open to receiving those. And sometimes, like, that's what it's really about. So sometimes I question, like, for example, when I see all these coaches are like, oh, I can. I can. Like, if you take my course, you'll be doing, like, you'll be manifesting, like, whatever. Yeah. [00:19:11] Speaker B: Within a year. Yeah. [00:19:12] Speaker A: And the weird thing is, would I say, like, it might bring you information that you didn't know before, a new way of looking at things where it makes things maybe seem a little softer. But I don't think anyone could really guarantee, like, if you do this, you're going to be able to. To manifest this. Because it all has to do with your own growth of how comfortable do you feel at receiving those things you're asking for. And for that, it, your healing is required because in order to accept it, in order to open that space and in order to feel comfortable. Comfortable at receiving whatever you're asking for. [00:19:51] Speaker B: So some of the action steps you can take would be like contacting someone, send them a message, ask them a question of someone who maybe has done something that you want to do or has what you would like to have as well. And then changing one habit. Like, we talked about the water, for example, rather than the coffee. But you could even do something as simple as pick a favorite song that reminds you of feeling good about your. What you're choosing to manifest. Play that song every day. Yeah. And showing up instead of just planning. Yeah. That's the hard one. That means you might have to actually leave your physical space in order to manifest. Okay, so the next section. Do you want to talk about that? [00:20:47] Speaker A: Yep. So now we're going to talk about identifying plus daily patterns that we do. Your life reflects what you do daily, not what you intend. In other words, let's slow that down. [00:21:04] Speaker B: Did you, did you hear what you just said? Your life reflects on what you do daily, not. Not what you intend. [00:21:11] Speaker A: Yep. [00:21:11] Speaker B: Whoa. [00:21:12] Speaker A: In other words, again, we go back to the actions. Like, what are the actions you're taking on a daily basis, not your intentions. So in other words, I used to have the. And this is me, like, confessing, like when I started, I would get up in the morning, I would meditate, and I would get in this Zen space. Space, like just the most peaceful state. Then I would go to work and I'm like, I hate this job. I hate. And then my new emotion would be the negativity. Excuse me, jeez, I can't even clear my throat today. It would be the negativity. And I was not even aware of it. But now imagine, like, let's even do a simple math. You don't even have to be a huge mathematician. So you're going to put about an hour of getting to a Zen feeling against a whole day of you thinking, shitty. [00:22:07] Speaker B: I can do the math there. [00:22:10] Speaker A: So that's just like where I had to catch myself because I'm like, wait a second, so what is it that I'm doing? So that's when I started, like, I changed jobs. I dropped the job that gave me the most stress. I started doing my job in a different way where it wasn't creating so much stress for me. An example, I've been a hairstylist for over 23 years. One of the things, the reason why, even though I'm stepping out, because it is moving into a new direction for me. One of the things that I can seriously say that has happened and some of these stylists that are probably listening or someone that knows a stylist, I work so differently. I said to Source, do not overwhelm me. My ideal of being locked up somewhere would be to have a scheduling app that people can go and just book their appointments by myself, because then I wouldn't have the liberty of. I want to take this day off. So instead I choose that. That's one of the things I have as agreements with Source. The other thing is I don't see myself as seeing a full calendar book with all these appointments and no room to move. So what Source does to me is it gives me. It breaks it down in two week status. So in the next two weeks I can tell you that I have clients and stuff. And even though I'll have openings, they fill right up by the beginning of that week, they're already full, which doesn't overwhelm me and it keeps me at peace. Now you might say, like, well, I'm no beginning again. 23 years and this has been happening. So this is my way of. When I started to move towards what I really was craving in life, which is to have peace, to enjoy the things I'm doing, to really be a flow about what I'm saying, everything started matching. But I had to listen and I also had to go with the way that I was guided to do things. And, you know, that's my way. It may not work for others. Some may need like, oh, I need the security blanket up, I need to be fully booked and everything. Well, that wouldn't really work for me because for me that feels too much like control and that feels like I couldn't breathe. [00:24:21] Speaker B: So was your aligned action to set up your own scheduling? [00:24:25] Speaker A: Yes, and to have my own business and to run my own business. Because as we know, if I would have worked for a corporate, for example, I wouldn't have that choice. So, yes, thank you, Lola, for bringing that up. I do have my own business. I do run my own business, and that's why I get the freedom to do that. However, when it comes to it, all my needs are being met. But this is my other thing where my evolution comes up. Because I had relied on my job to bring in needs. Right. But what if my actual align path requires more of abundance coming in from source, meaning I have to open up to other things because it don't matter. Even if I worked all the time, there's no way I would get the life that I'm aligned to that I truly want to manifest and live. So my next evolution is where does it look like for me to bring in divine abundance, which is a way different part. That means that you're open to receiving it from all sorts. And right now I'm working on it and it has been working. So I mean, this is part of you just watching your evolution and seeing the changes, like seeing where you may have worked on some things and they are no longer working out for you or really being truly honest with yourself, like, where's your job as you see it going to take you and where do you want to be [00:25:54] Speaker B: and then what step do you take exactly? Okay, so one of the things that you want to watch for is how is your identity being built through repetition? You know, as a person who used to coach people to quit smoking, it takes three weeks to change a habit. [00:26:16] Speaker A: Yep. [00:26:17] Speaker B: And I think that's what they're saying here, the repetition of what you're working on manifests, you know, the affirmations plus whatever the small action is, plus applying the heart. That can become your new routine. So like I said, even something as simple as playing that same song for, you know, a couple weeks every day, you know, as a form of repetition. So what you want to look for is the gap between who you're saying you are and what you're actually doing. This goes to money so easily, doesn't it? Yes, because you can say I'm attracting money, I'm allowing certain things source to allow flow. And then you could be all freaked out by looking at your bank account. Like I get. Yep. And then that, that counteracts it all. [00:27:03] Speaker A: Exactly. So I think that you just brought up a good point, is take the action of doing the changes, like maybe doing affirmations or whatever, but also catch yourself where you're cutting yourself short as far as what emotions are you feeling after you're doing those things? Because an affirmation, if it doesn't feel sincere, if it's not landing, there's usually because there's a blockage there. That's a great point of. Okay, well first let me go into that and see how I can heal that and see how I can see where I'm at and remove that so that then that affirmation has more power [00:27:42] Speaker B: because you have to feel worthy of it. Yep. And that's something that I've been looking at recently, you know, trying to embody worthiness so that you can have the manifestations work in your favor. [00:27:54] Speaker A: And isn't that so crazy? So one of the biggest things that I've been working on myself is wishing comes from lack because it means that you like desperately want something that is going to come. So for me, even staying what's going to work and what lands once you do the work that requires is embodiment. Because what you become on your inside, how you see your life live like how you see yourself living your life and the energy that you have within and how you're feeling about that life, which is the embodiment of it, will eventually manifest into physical taking those small actions. [00:28:39] Speaker B: I think that's more of the bridge between emotional and action. You, I think so too, but I think it's very important. And so keep working on the aligning yourself and the self worth and all that so that you truly feel you are capable of attracting what you're trying to attract. But then again, that action step does need to be taken. So when they say, who am I and what am I actually doing? I was thinking, oh, well, I'm going to stop procrastinating tomorrow. That's what I heard in my head. I'm gonna become very productive tomorrow. [00:29:22] Speaker A: And as long as tomorrow comes, that's great to clear that up. [00:29:27] Speaker B: But I thought that was funny when I was. Oh, yeah, that's a good example. I'm gonna stop procrastinating tomorrow. Well, what am I saying and what am I actually doing? Yeah. [00:29:36] Speaker A: So one of the things I wanna share something that had changed for me drastically this year when the year of the horse was coming, because this was before even the year of the horse transition. In one of the things that was kept, like, the spirit kept messaging me and just letting me know is this. This year is all about movement. So in order to better align with that energy, you have to do your. Take your own action and what that equal. Equal to you in your life. So I started first. I started. Like I said, I need to get moving. So where have I not moved and where do I feel stagnant? And the truth was, it was my body. Like, I felt like I wasn't moving enough. So I started incorporating a somatic movement in the morning along with my grounding and taking care of, like, pretty much after I'm done with my grounding, that's when I do my somatic move movement. And I started with, like, do a few minutes. Like, I would time myself. I think my very first thing I did was like 20 minutes of it. And I kept it for a week. And then after that I raised it up and now it's set at 30 minutes, six days a week. And I only take Sundays off unless I absolutely have something going on. Meaning that takes away, like, it's unexpected. Then I won't do it. But here's my thing. Even on that and those changes, I held myself accountable to do it. And I've been doing it. But I also. When things come up and I don't, I'm not able to do it. I'm not my worst critic or my worst enemy anymore. I just say, tomorrow, I'll get back to it. [00:31:15] Speaker B: Yep, yep. Just kind of dust yourself off and. Yeah, that's what we talked about with quitting smoking too. [00:31:20] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:31:21] Speaker B: So one of the things we wanted to bring up in this episode was, you know, the barking Chihuahua. The ego. Yeah. Right. Because the. The ego wants comfort. It does not want change. [00:31:34] Speaker A: Exactly. [00:31:34] Speaker B: So you may have all the affirmations you want, you may be aligning with your heart, but the Action step is hard because it's requiring you to change and keep repeating. Right. Well. [00:31:47] Speaker A: And even when you do little ch. Like changes. So, for example, when I started it, it didn't start easy. I felt sore the first whole week because even though you would think, how can you be sore after only 20 minutes? Because in my mind, talk about telling yourself you're doing something and you're not really doing it. I kept saying to myself, well, when I am doing hair, I'm moving. So it's not like that takes care of my movement. The truth is, it is moving. However, it's not a different set of muscles. Yes. And it's not intentional moving. And I'm not really working with the somatic aspect of shifting energy. So at first it was like, I was really sore. Then I'm like, why do my legs keep acting weird? Why do my arms feel so sore? And it took a bit, and now I feel good. And in fact, I look forward to it because my body is like, oh, I like this. [00:32:38] Speaker B: Yeah. But let's get back to the ego, because it likes predictability. So you start even changing a small part of your routine, like we're being told to do with that action step, it's gonna bark. It's gonna say, this is not the comfort zone. This is not what I'm accustomed to. Why are you doing this? [00:32:57] Speaker A: Yep. [00:32:57] Speaker B: So I think that's why you need three weeks to create a habit. You just need to. Because it's gonna try to stop you at every corner. [00:33:04] Speaker A: And I guess that's what I was trying to do, but I didn't really succeed on it. I just thought of that too. What I was trying to do is even when you change the things, there's gonna be things that are going to be reactive. They're gonna be like, why are you doing that? Like, that is something new, which is [00:33:19] Speaker B: why you have to keep that mental process going on top as. As well. I'm doing it because of this. [00:33:24] Speaker A: Yep. [00:33:25] Speaker B: You know, and then we talked about the I'll start tomorrow kind of thinking, and then the all or nothing. You know, about all or nothing. This is a phrase I don't use very much, but, yeah, balls to the wall kind of mentality, you know? [00:33:39] Speaker A: And see, that was me when I was younger, and it was really. It got. It got the best of me. And I definitely. I'm like, yeah, I need to stop with that. [00:33:46] Speaker B: Which is why they keep emphasizing that it's just a small action step. It doesn't have to knock you out. Okay. [00:33:53] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:33:54] Speaker B: And Then perfect perfectionism as avoidance. Boy, do I know that one. Because I. I definitely have fallen into that trap easily. And you know what? Nothing's perfect. Absolutely nothing is perfect. [00:34:07] Speaker A: Exactly. [00:34:08] Speaker B: If something's perfect, it atrophies because there's no growth. So the whole universe is imperfect, and it's that imperfection that makes it flow. So let's get over the perfectionism thing, because you're never going to be perfect. [00:34:22] Speaker A: Yeah. And I always look at the word perfection or perfect as the word normal, because everybody has their own ideal of it. So there's no way that could even hold up to everyone's stuff standards. [00:34:34] Speaker B: Yeah, because everybody's got their own truth about that. I get that. So the suggestion we've been given is to use the mantra. It's not about doing it perfectly, it's about doing it once. Yes, well, you say that every day. You get it done, don't you? Okay, so I guess what we wanted to emphasize here is one small action per day. Not try to do 10 things at once on any given day to make it happen. And not a life where you're overhauling your life completely either. You know, that can be particularly disruptive if you have a family you're living with. Okay, Everybody up at 5am let's go jogging. As a teenager, I wouldn't go with that. So. So start thinking about yourself. What's one small thing you could do today that would help your future self? And if you looked back on it, it would be a turning point, wouldn't it? Okay, so me being me, it's like, why? Why just talk about this, what you've done, but what are some things you could do? So I did some research, asked, well, what would be some of the most common things people ask on the spiritual path, and what could you. To get a small action started? Because with me doing tarot readings, I hear certain questions over and over and over again. So the first one I wanted to know about is my life purpose. People on the spiritual path are always curious, what's my life purpose? And then, you know, the further you go on the spiritual path, you get the answer, and it's not what you wanted to hear, which is you be you. [00:36:19] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:36:20] Speaker B: Just be. But for those of us who are wondering, what am I here to do? Right. So there's a few things that are suggested, and one of the ones that came up is one of Amaral's favorite. When you're. When you're focusing on manifesting your life purpose, what's number one on the list? There. [00:36:38] Speaker A: Journal. [00:36:39] Speaker B: Yes. And how has journaling helped you with that? [00:36:42] Speaker A: It helps. Helps me to sort out ideas, and I'm not going to. The other thing, too, is sometimes you'll find that the things you felt very strong about, that you said, okay, this is what I want to work with, and this is what I want to bring forth. They'll start changing with time because your priority priorities start changing. You see things differently. So there's no way that even the same goals, the same things you wanted to bring forth are going to be staying the same. Same. Like a lot of things end up changing. [00:37:14] Speaker B: Yeah. So what. What I'm reading here on our list is kind of saying sometimes people get stuck at the journaling point, but I'm still saying that's an action step. [00:37:24] Speaker A: Yep, it is an action step. [00:37:26] Speaker B: You could pull tarot cards and you can just sit there and wait too. Then I think that's what they're trying to say. It's like, yeah, sometimes people think they're done at that point. Y. But what are some actual small actions in addition to what I would say? Journaling is one of those actions when you wondering what you're here to do. So this is a big one, guys. Share it. Share it publicly. You know, I'm. I'm thinking that, you know, I'm excited about this. What do you guys think about this? You know, post it, write a comment to somebody, message somebody. And here's what I'm thinking. If, you know, if it's truly to be you, you know, which is why we're here. I think we try to pigeonhole ourselves on the spiritual path and think, oh, I must become a shaman, or I must become an energy healer. I must do that. But what if you just like to crochet? [00:38:24] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:38:24] Speaker B: What if you just love crocheting and you say, okay, I'm going to take a picture of this, this piece I just finished, and let people see it. That's an action step. Yep, an action step. Maybe you do have bigger goals. You know, like, being an energy healer would be like putting a post out and say, what kind of energy healing? How many energy healing friends do I have? And what kind of modality do you use so you can start getting information, but it's, you know, it's getting the communication and the flow out there. [00:38:59] Speaker A: Yep. [00:39:03] Speaker B: You know, I've even seen people do what you do. Like, they'll just. They'll just post their dream house. [00:39:08] Speaker A: Mm. [00:39:08] Speaker B: Yeah. Like, what do you think of this? I like it. Okay, so what's next on the List. It's to offer something small. So this is how I started. Yeah. Do a free reading, a mini session and get some feedback. Yes. Because you could be. For my example would be tarot cards. Right. I was new to tarot at one point and so I would bring my cards in my book to work and most of people at work had no interest in what I was doing. But there were a couple and I said, yeah, if we get a break together, I'll be glad to read. But I'll do the reading for you. But I'm going to be reading out of my book to learn. [00:39:47] Speaker A: Yep. [00:39:48] Speaker B: And that's how I got started. [00:39:49] Speaker A: Started. [00:39:49] Speaker B: So I got feedback from those people. So an action step would be a good. That's a good example of that. I don't know how it applies. Well, let's see. How would it apply to other, other things like. Well, this is the spiritual path. [00:40:05] Speaker A: Yep. [00:40:11] Speaker B: Well, this makes sense because the next one would be teach an idea that you already understand. [00:40:15] Speaker A: Mm. [00:40:17] Speaker B: And I think a lot of people are self taught on the spiritual path, don't you? It's an, it's, it's an inner journey. [00:40:22] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:40:22] Speaker B: You know, it could be just as simple. I read all the Dolores Cannon books, Right. I'm going to tell you about Dolores Cannon and you know, all the volunteers who came to earth, you know, the souls that came to earth, for example. And then another suggestion to spend 30 minutes doing instead of researching. Oh God, there it is again. Doing. Well, you know, that's a good, that's actually a good point when it comes to the spiritual practices because there's books about pendulums, there's books about candle magic, there's all kinds of things, you know, dousing, whatever. And we can read and read or there's like rituals or you know, ceremonies. You can read and read and read and read about them. But then when you actually do them, it is. So it's such a different experience. [00:41:15] Speaker A: It is, you know, like for example, [00:41:19] Speaker B: with you and the breath work, you know, because you light a candle during breath work and let it burn down. Yep. And you actually feel the energy shifting. [00:41:28] Speaker A: Yep. And not only that, but it's crazy. So what happens is usually I get the little tiny, small candles, the one that's supposed to burn from two to three hours and in 30 minutes they almost burn it down to the bottom. And it's because there's intention with it. [00:41:43] Speaker B: But you could have read about a candle and imagine that happening in breath work. But it's different because you're observing it you're feeling the energy. [00:41:51] Speaker A: Exactly. [00:41:52] Speaker B: And same with. Some people don't like the word ritual. So I'm just going to say ceremony. Doing ceremonies you can read about, you know, set up north, south, east, west on your altar and do this, this and this. But it's not until you actually do it and feel that flow that you go, whoa, that's amazing. So. So if you've got. You probably have an inkling of what you want to do on the spiritual path. It's just a matter, I think, of. What they're saying here is share what you do, ask about others who do what you do, teach if you can, share your wisdom, and then do it instead of just thinking about it or researching it. So that's all good advice. [00:42:34] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:42:35] Speaker B: So the next section I know people are very interested in is finding a partner who's as spiritual as you are. So I know people are trying to manifest that because I get that in readings all the time. So in my research here, it says, what do people do? Well, they're visualizing. That's good. You want to visualize your partner. Right. And then you're working on yourself so that you have a partner who's a good caliber to you. Right. And then they wait. I'm not quite ready yet. I'm just gonna sit here and wait and he's just gonna show up and, you know, like, good example of being. Yeah, I. I almost never leave the cabin. Why would I expect to meet somebody? So the waiting doesn't really pay off. Right. So what are the small actions? Do you want to reason the first one? [00:43:27] Speaker A: Be visibly yourself, online or in person. [00:43:31] Speaker B: Now that makes a lot of sense. No posturing. [00:43:33] Speaker A: Yep. [00:43:34] Speaker B: Because, yes, you might think I'm supposed to be the perfect spiritual person, but you really want a match to you, not a match to what you're supposed to be. [00:43:42] Speaker A: Yeah, right. [00:43:45] Speaker B: Okay. Oh, there's a good one coming up next. Say yes to one social situation you'd normally avoid. Was that one written for me? [00:43:57] Speaker A: Maybe. Does it apply? [00:43:58] Speaker B: Yes. I'm such a stay home hermit. But, you know, like, my drum circles are great for that. People have made really good friends at drum circles. They. They took the action. They showed up at the drum circle, they met other people who were very similar to them. You know, maybe they didn't meet their spouse. There. There's the potential to do that, but they might make another friend who has [00:44:23] Speaker A: a brother, you know, but here's my thing on this whole session, the calling in a spiritual partner. For me, I was calling in A tribe which is technically a spiritual partners as far as maybe not romantically, but definitely in a friendship way. And I have so succeeded on that. And I've met so many people. And I continue. This is maybe why I love going to events. And one of like, things that I like going to is I like going to events sometimes where there's complete strangers, where there's no one that I know, because alignment is alignment. And if you find someone that, that you connect with, they're gonna make their point of like, oh, well, what do you do? Or like, whatever. And I'm like, oh, I offer breath work. And then they're usually like, okay, can I come to that? And I'll invite them to that. Oh, we also do a podcast, so there's that option. And it's just a way of really expanding yourself and doing it through relations that cause expansion in your life too, of getting to know more people. And I know that not everybody feels comfortable with that. And I know that I'm probably one of the very few because that's definitely a. A huge ex husband, extrovert, not introvert type personality. [00:45:46] Speaker B: A lot of people on the spiritual path are introverts. [00:45:48] Speaker A: Yeah. And so that's why I know that it may be different and that may not be for you. But what I'm saying is that's something I enjoy and that's how I've met so many people. [00:45:58] Speaker B: I wouldn't have met you if I didn't get myself out of the cabin [00:46:01] Speaker A: every once in a while. Yeah. [00:46:03] Speaker B: And look what we've manifested. [00:46:05] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:46:06] Speaker B: Yeah. So that's good advice. You know, keep in mind that you do have. Have to be in social situations. So even if it's just one, give it a try. And then the next thing that's recommended is a small action for calling in spiritual partners to initiate an honest conversation. Well, I think that works no matter what kind of partner, spiritual or not. [00:46:32] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:46:33] Speaker B: Because that would filter people out pretty quickly who aren't good matches for you. But it wouldn't it be exciting if they are. And you can just keep that conversation going and going and feel very, very authentic. Because we've talked about how authentic authenticity is the highest feeling on scales. Right. Highest emotion. And that's what a good partner is, someone you can have a great conversation with that you feel validated. [00:46:54] Speaker A: Also, I find it that in the spiritual journey itself, when you meet people, people like. Yeah, you meet them first, like introduce yourself and stuff, but then when you start talking to them, they're usually more. They go More in depth about their com. They're just who they are and stuff. It's not a just on the surface type conversation. Like for example, when you meet strangers and they introduce themselves and that's it pretty much. And they tell you really quick like this is what I do for a living and that's it. So it just almost like opens, it opens up to have a deeper experience. [00:47:28] Speaker B: Absolutely, yeah. And then the next thing on the list, I love, it's practice expressing what you actually feel. This is a great example. What's the most common thing someone says when they ask you, how are you? [00:47:45] Speaker A: Good. Usually that's the answer. [00:47:47] Speaker B: Good. Or I'm fine. Yeah. [00:47:48] Speaker A: Or I'm fine. [00:47:49] Speaker B: Is that really true? See, no, I, I've been doing this for decades. I tell people how I'm feeling and you should be they shocked that I'm not saying I feel fine. I, you know, I've had days where I've said kind of mediocre, you know, dishonest. [00:48:06] Speaker A: If you are like lying and saying that you're something when you're really not. [00:48:10] Speaker B: Well, especially if you're looking for a good spiritual match partner. Yeah. So instead of going with the what does somebody expect me to say? I think that's what they're trying to say here. You know, be honest, be who you are. And that's really how you attract the proper people into your life as well as a potential partner. [00:48:31] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:48:32] Speaker B: So the, the, the message here is connection requires exposure, not perfection. [00:48:38] Speaker A: Correct. That's awesome. I like that. [00:48:41] Speaker B: Yep. So here's the next topic. Do you want to tell them what it is [00:48:46] Speaker A: Talking about it for a bit now, but money abundance and people [00:48:52] Speaker B: tend to do their affirmations and work on clearing blocks, which you and I have done. We've got ancestral blocks, we've got, you know, life in our current lifetime blocks. And then we sit and wait for alignment. And so the suggestion is that, well, let's add an action to that. Right. So what's one of the actions? [00:49:10] Speaker A: Tell people what you offer clearly and simply. [00:49:15] Speaker B: That's good advice for people like you and me. You know, you offer soul related haircuts, I offer tarot readings and spirit guide drawings. I try to keep esoterics as simple as possible. Because I'm trained in esoterics. I try to make them as grounded as possible. So one of the things that I really don't like is like for example, when I see this, say tell people what you offer clearly and simply is like stores where they hide the, the price tags or Restaurants where they don't tell you the price on the menu. [00:49:53] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:49:54] Speaker B: To me that's, you know, if I can't, if I can't see the price, I, my first thought is I can't afford it. Right. So I, I think that's what they're saying here. What, who are you? What do you do? What are you offering in order to have an exchange of, of money? Okay. And that could be something that's not even your, your job. That could just be your side gig, right? [00:50:16] Speaker A: Yep. [00:50:16] Speaker B: Like someone who's crocheting the dolls, right? [00:50:19] Speaker A: Yep. [00:50:19] Speaker B: Okay. So it also says make a direct invitation and say I have space this week. That's a good point. I forget to do that. And I guess people sometimes think you're booked up, you know, when really you've got some space. [00:50:33] Speaker A: Yep. [00:50:34] Speaker B: So that allows the money in abundance to flow. Follow up with people who showed interest in what you do. That one seems obvious, doesn't it? And adjust an offer to more easily say yes. Now this is more for entrepreneurs. [00:50:54] Speaker A: Yep. [00:50:55] Speaker B: This advice, I don't know how. So the, the mantra is money moves through clarity and excuse exchange, not just energy. [00:51:07] Speaker A: Yep. [00:51:12] Speaker B: I'm just trying to think how people who have a 9 to 5 job can apply this information. [00:51:18] Speaker A: Well, the thing is we all have hobbies, we all have special interests that are not just a job or job related. So what if that's true? What if with just expanding your. The thing is, yes, this is a monetary thing, like meaning it's talking about abundance and stuff. But abundance can come in many forms. So one of the abundance I see is abundance in like learning or experiencing new things. An example. And I think it's funny because out of our group, I'm the one that was first like pretty much introduced to so many plant medicines and stuff without looking for it. That's what's funny. I would go to like a class and then the person, person next to me is like, oh, I'm a cacao ceremony facilitator. And I'm like, oh, what's like that? Like, and they would explain to me and then I would look up the things of like, well, I'm interested in that. And then I would be like, you guys, how do you guys feel about having a cacao ceremony or putting together a cacao ceremony? And that's how we got started. Then it's like, oh, well, I do cacao and I do sound healing. I was like, oh, that sounds even cool too. I would not check it out. So I go in and check it out. And. And then it's all of a sudden, like, something else opens up that is like, oh, this is, like, what they do. So sometimes all it takes is that small action of introducing yourself to someone. And as soon as you introduce yourself to them, they'll tell you what they do. And sometimes I feel like every. Well, at least I can speak for myself. Everything I've done, which has been a lot, I have been divinely guided by taking the action into meeting, like, a person that I've never met before and allowing whatever they have to offer or the experience they had to share with me to just go through. So I just. I love that, you know, And I [00:53:12] Speaker B: got to thinking, too, while you're talking. This doesn't have to be for entrepreneurs. It could be, you know, taking that effort to be honest and have conversations with people could lead to bartering. I could imagine someone bumping into someone going, hey, I really love dogs. Really. I have a dog and I need the dog. I need a dog sitter in two weeks. [00:53:31] Speaker A: Exactly. [00:53:32] Speaker B: You know, those kind of things. Yeah. Okay, so what else do we want to manifest emotional peace and regulation. So what people do is they meditate and they try their best to stay high vibe. Good. But what is. What is an action you can take? So this goes back to you. Take three conscious breaths when you're feeling triggered or anytime. In my opinion, three conscious breaths gets you centered. See, that's an action. Remember, we talked about it doesn't have to be big actions, small actions. [00:54:05] Speaker A: Yep. [00:54:06] Speaker B: Name what you're feeling without fixing it, say it out loud. And that's what I think. Being the observer helps. Instead of saying, I'm sad, say I'm observing Lola. Saying she's sad gives it a different perspective. Step away instead of reacting. Oh, that's easier said than done. But it is an action, isn't it? [00:54:27] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:54:28] Speaker B: And sit in silence for two minutes with no phone. You know, that shouldn't feel like an action, but it does because we're such slaves to our phones that it would be uncomfortable at first, wouldn't it? [00:54:41] Speaker A: Yep. [00:54:43] Speaker B: So peace is practiced in moments, and it's not achieved permanently is what we're getting here for the takeaway. So, yep, keep practicing your peace. Those are action steps. [00:54:57] Speaker A: Also, I feel that to be at peace and to be regulated is a huge part of being open to receive. Because if you're not at peace and you're not regulated, you can't receive. [00:55:11] Speaker B: I agree. And so other actions I would suggest would be like the eft tapping, somatic breathing where you're touching like your collarbone and places like that while you breathe. There's all kinds of things. So. Yeah, I agree, I agree completely with that. So another thing people are trying to manifest is confidence and stepping into their power. And so you can do very powerful affirmations. You know, I'm a powerful goddess of light, you know, and you can visualize being confident, but the actions that are. Represent that are recommended. Would you like to read the first one? Yeah. [00:55:47] Speaker A: Do one thing you've been avoiding. [00:55:51] Speaker B: That sounds terrible, but it's true, isn't it? [00:55:54] Speaker A: Yep. It's very true. [00:55:55] Speaker B: Certainly would put you back in your power. Yep. Even if it's like. Yeah. And once again, it doesn't have to be big. Like I, I cleaned the bathroom today. I'd been avoiding that. [00:56:06] Speaker A: So funny. [00:56:09] Speaker B: Say no when you normally say yes. You know all about that one. [00:56:12] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:56:15] Speaker B: You were a people pleaser as a child and a young adult. He had to learn that speak honestly instead of politely. [00:56:23] Speaker A: Ouch. [00:56:23] Speaker B: You've learned that one too, haven't you? You know, a lot of this on this list goes back to honesty. [00:56:30] Speaker A: Yep. [00:56:30] Speaker B: And openness. And then finish something small that you started. I'm not good at follow through on projects, so that would, that would probably. Yeah, it would increase my confidence for sure. Okay. And we just have a few minutes left and I think we have time to go through this last one here. So the last one is you're opening up your spiritual gifts and intuition, which I know people, people in the audience are interested in. Right. So people often just sit there and wait for confirmation of their gifts. You know, they're there and they doubt what they receive. I think we see that a lot, don't we? One thing I tell people is that your spiritual gifts, they call them, was it a practice? It's a practice. So you practice with your spiritual gifts. So you start out at a certain level and you keep honing them so they're there. But I think a lot of people don't believe they're there because they come naturally to them. [00:57:39] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:57:41] Speaker B: So what are some small actions you could do to help yourself manifest your spiritual gifts? Become more aware of them and more confident about them. I love the first one. Do you want to read that one? [00:57:54] Speaker A: Yep. Trust the first intuitive hit once per day. [00:57:59] Speaker B: You know, I don't think people give their. I think some people think that it has to be lofty. Your intuition can be very grounded. It could be as simple as, I'm going to take the long route today. And then you find out there was an accident on the highway, you know. [00:58:14] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:58:15] Speaker B: That seems very non woo woo. But for some reason, you trusted your intuition to do that. [00:58:22] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:58:22] Speaker B: Or the first intuitive hit could be, oh, wow, I really want to hear this song today. For some reason. And you listen to it and it just like, oh, yeah, I'm gonna vibe with that all day long now. There's all kinds of them. Write down your impressions without editing them and share one intuitive insight every day. Even if it's casual. You could even just share it with yourself. Right. Say it out loud. And if you can find way to practice. Wow. So I should have trusted my intuition more and judged that we were out of time. All right. I hope this was helpful for you to kind of focus on the three things. The mental, the emotional, and the action. The action's very important. [00:59:08] Speaker A: Yep. [00:59:09] Speaker B: And we'll see you next week. [00:59:10] Speaker A: Thanks for tuning in. Don't forget to share. [00:59:13] Speaker B: Bye. [00:59:13] Speaker A: Bye.